I had an interesting experience last night. I went to my sister-in-law's show (she is a singer/songwriter) - now, I love her music. Very poetic and beautiful, a haunting/enchanting voice, clever lyrics. But she sings a lot of sad songs, which I used to really enjoy. I loved the sentimentality of it all. I loved the honesty of those sad songs. Anyway, last night she sang a new song she's written recently, and of course I was really excited to hear a new song. The words were very clever, the tune a hit for sure. It was a beautiful song......and yet..... it made me sort of uncomfortable. I just didn't like the sadness of it. I didn't find myself enjoying it the way I used to.
This struck me... Realizing this, I drove home in deep introspection. A change has come over me. I mean, I used to really love that "honest" haunting, beauty-in-sadness type of music. Not so much that I could identify with it, but I had a real appreciation for somebody being honest about sadness. Because we are all sad, right? Well apparently not. Because I went home in a daze, realizing all of my sad feelings are gone. That is just not a part of me anymore. I think my heart has been changed.
I can't remember the last time I was sad... Last spring/summer I had a difficult time in my life, felt very unstable, called my mom crying on a few occasions. I remember I had a lot of anxiety - fear about my children's health, or not feeling adequate to handle my own children, etc. But that seems so far away. I haven't felt like that in a LONG time. I have been free of my anxiety since last August, I believe. I think that period I went through was a sort of detoxification, cleansing out buried anxieties. I got them out and haven't felt it since.
I still have my problems. Today my 4-year-old drove me CRAZY. But my problems don't have the same effect on me. Now, they are just life. And you go with it. Or, like I heard in church today, we still have our burdens, but the Lord carries them for us. I think that is a good way to put it. I honestly don't feel any burdens in my life right now. The biggest burden in my life these past few years has been the ongoing struggle with my addiction to cooked foods, and the mental-case I was as a result of that. And now I have chosen to release that--a HUGE leap of faith--and now, more forward and grow as a person!
And I have never been happier. To be specific, I feel more at-ease. I feel more relaxed, confident, resilient, calm, and just joyful. I can honestly say I feel excited ... for what? For the future, I guess. For more personal growth. For more mysteries to be unfolded to me. For my convictions to be challenged, and for me to overcome those challenges. For more children to come, and to nurture and teach those children in sovereignty.
I've never felt closer to God, and I'm not sure if that's because my addiction was in the way? Or maybe before I was blocking Him out. I was so busy numbing my feelings, being insecure, or being defensive, that I never took the time to be still, to listen, to hear Him. How many people are living day to day in a subconscious attempt to escape? To escape stillness? To escape reality? Because numbing our feelings is NOT reality. That is not truth. That is not integrity. I fear too many of us sabotage ourselves and stand in the way of our own personal growth.